How to back down gracefully in an argument

Those of you who are familiar with my hubs know that I have bible scriptures for almost anything. The Bible has good tips on how to deal with anger. Take a look at these scriptures.

Ecclesiates 7:9

Don't be quick-tempered, for anger is the friend of fools.

If you are on the brink of getting really angry in an argument, just tell yourself this does not make sense. Calm down, count to ten and tell the person you are in disagreement with "let's talk sensibly about this."

James 1:19-20

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

Take time to listen to what the other person has to say. If something was said that was offensive or hurtful, don't respond with another hurtful remark. Take a few deep breaths and calmly and gently tell the other person that the remark was hurtful and unfair to you. When you respond calmly the other person would realize their mistake and most likely apologize. Then you can begin the process of discussing and working out the issue/s at hand.

Ephesians 4:31

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words and slander, as well as all types of malicious behaviour. Instead be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

I think this one speaks for itself.

Ephesians 4:26

In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.

Fact is there will be times when we can't help ourselves and we do get mad. Even Jesus got angry and could not contain himself sometimes (John 2:13-16). It is good to let the feelings out sometimes. Keeping things bottled up would only make matters worse. But when we feel the urge to vent ensure that you don't do anything stupid that you would regret later on. Also ensure that before the end of the day differences would have been resolved. Don't let resentment go on for days, weeks or even years.

Psalm 78:38

Yet he was merciful and forgave their sins and didn't destroy them all. Many a time he held back his anger and did not unleash his fury!

God gets angry with us at times but even He knows when to back down. Let's take his example and forgive when disagreements occur.

Remember, the Bible is God's instruction manual for mankind. In it there is a lot of advice on how to develop meaningful relationships. Take time to study it.

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